Just Love Me!

Just LOVE me, like a fat kid loves cake!

Have you ever felt like that? When I first heard that, it hit me like a
ton of bricks. To be in LOVE like that or to be loved like that would
just rule forever. Is that not what we are all yearning for? Do we not
seek out LOVE from the second we breathe as an infant? We search our
parents eyes for that look of LOVE. We smile because we know it makes
them smile with the LOVE that they feel for us.

To LOVE or not to LOVE? This is the question we all ponder through out
life.

Why do we yearn to be someones everything? We want nothing more than to
feel like the LOVE of one`s life. We spend our lives looking for that
special person that will make our world seem like a dream. We want to
feel safe and secure in our choice of partners. But how do we really know
that this one is "the one" we will LOVE unconditionally forever? How do
we know that this choice of LOVE will not break our heart? How do we know
that this LOVE will LOVE us when the chips are down and we are not that
perfect person that they fell in LOVE with?

Well I hate to sound like a wet blanket here on a cold night, but nothing
is guaranteed. Life promises us nothing. We make our lives what they are,
right at this moment. In matters of the heart we gamble, and as I have
said before, to give LOVE is to risk losing LOVE. That is just another
one of those bleary facts. Like rain storms and snowfalls, we have no
control over anything that nature has given to us. We can only do our
best with what we have. I have spoken before about gifts. Well, LOVE is a
gift when it is given and when it is received. It does not happen because
we say we want it to, or when we like a person and say "LOVE me". HA. I
am sure that almost everyone out there will agree to that. I am also
certain that the word "Stalker" comes from that notion.

LOVE can be a very scary risk. "Have you ever been in love? Horrible
isn't it! It makes you so vulnerable. It opens you up, totally exposing
your heart only to let someone get inside you and twist things up so
tight, you can barely breathe. You build up defenses, you build an entire
suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then that person, not
seeming any different from any other person, wanders into your lonely
life. You give them your heart. They didn't ask for it. They did
something one day, like kiss you or smile your way, and then your life
isn't your own any more. LOVE takes your heart hostage. LOVE swarms
inside you. LOVE devours your entire being and leaves you crying in the
darkness. With the simple phrase, "lets just be friends", it turns into a
knife, cutting its way into your heart. The pain is like no other you
have ever felt nor ever want to feel again. Not just in your imagination,
not just in the mind. It's like losing a part of who you are, or rather
who you were. That my friends is one reason we are so careful to not make
the wrong LOVE choice. I know reading this totally makes one never want
to do that. But we do, over and over again. Why?

Is it such a deep needed desire that we really have no control? Is cupids
arrow that strong? YES on both counts.

LOVE is one of the most powerful sensations we will ever endure in our
lives.

LOVE knows no limit to its power, no end to its trust, no loss of its
hope.

LOVE can overpower anything.

LOVE stays up, when all else has falls down.

LOVE is felt when one grasps another's hand.

LOVE is as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody wants it and
everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do, will cherish
it, get lost in it, and among all, will never, ever forget it.

LOVE does not waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead it
creates a perfect love.

LOVE is somewhat like an hourglass, the heart fills up on one side as the
brain empties the other.

LOVE is admiring ones heart: as admiration is the love of ones mind.

LOVE is with you when you least deserve it, because that's when you
really need it.

These are a few thoughts that I have that tell me what LOVE is and why
LOVE is.

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete
us.We must understand that until we admit that while our partner can add
sweet dimensions to our lives, we alone are the only ones that can bring
that same fulfillment to ourselves. No one is responsible for our
happiness.

Some people fall into a pattern of needing that NEWNESS LOVE in their
relationships. These people will go from one relationship to another
forever, never getting off that roller coaster of failure. They never
understand that LOVE has stages. LOVE at first is so full of mystery and
excitement. Then we move into becoming comfortable with one another and
blending our ways to continue to strengthen our LOVE for one another. We
continue to grow with each other, adding newness to each other by growing
in one world, but as two people. Our years together build our road to our
destiny of spending our lives and enduring tribulations as one. If you
want life to always be a bed of roses, then you best grow a few gardens,
because the roses will only get there if you grow them or bring them to
your life. In other words sweet people of LOVE, your LOVE and passion is
only what you make it. If you ignore it or get too busy to feed it, it
will die or fade away. It's like any other living breathing thing. LOVE
needs to be treated with respect and treated like the special gift that
it is.

Another thing we must be careful of is to let those we love be perfectly
themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image, otherwise LOVE is
only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. LOVE like you mean it,
it is the only true way to let your LOVE for one another grow stronger
and continue to be all powerful and wonderful.

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Relationships ask us to contemplate "forever" as a way of life.

It is a world without end of our own creation

Amaze Your Lover

Some people have a natural ability to romance the opposite sex and
others seem like they don't even know what it means. However, everyone
should know how to make their partner's heart melt because it's one of
the finest acts of seduction.


For Your Wife/Girlfriend:

1. Kidnap her for a surprise picnic. Plan your rendezvous for the weekend
or when you both have a free day. Make sure she doesn't have any plans.
Then you tell her to come with you to the supermarket or something along
those lines. Give her time to get ready, get in the car, and pick up some
take-out food. Then head to a nice empty beach or park and explain to her
that you're having a romantic getaway!

2. Write her a poem. If this is not your thing, there are lots of places
to get some inspiration. Try a poetry book, romantic song, etc. Just
don't repeat anything word for word because it may sound familiar to her
and she'll know you faked it.

3. Cook her a delicious meal, light some candles, dim the lights and
CLEAN the house! When she gets home, she'll be speechless.

4. Hold her hand every time you go out. If this isn't possible (because
one of you is carrying a baby or pushing a shopping cart) then make sure
to maintain some form of physical contact. This will make her feel like
you're proud to be with her and can't keep your hands off her!

5. Give her a spa like treat. Fill your tub with warm water then add some
milk and honey. Invite her in, give a a nice scrub down, then sit behind
her and give her a firm yet gentle scalp massage.

6. Plan a photography session. Let your wife or girlfriend get all dolled
up for you, then take pictures of her that you'll keep in your wallet,
office, or car. Tell her that she's beautiful and that she takes amazing
pictures.

7. Get up a few minutes before her one day and write a simple "I Love
You" on a post-it. Stick the post-it on the bathroom mirror or someplace
she'll be sure to see it. This is guaranteed to make her feel special and
lovey-dovey! If you want to expand on this idea, you can leave sweet
little notes for her in so many other places too!

8. If you're an artist, take inspiration from Titanic and draw, paint, or
sculpt your lover. You'll get the best results if your masterpiece
actually looks good but if not, tell her you could never create something
as beautiful as her.


For Your Husband/Boyfriend:

1. After a hard day at work, give your man an exquisite back massage. Use
some massage oil to relax and soothe him.

2. Wear lingerie. This might not seem like the most romantic thing to do,
but he will absolutely love it. He will definitely appreciate the effort
you made and it'll seem super-romantic to him!

3. If your lover shaves his face, you do it for him. Play some romantic
music, lather him up, and use slow, gentle strokes to shave him. DO NOT
cut or nick him! Just take your time and he'll feel satisfied and taken
care of.

4. Take some time out to just look into each others eyes. Appreciate his
presence, his scent, and his warmth. If you feel like kissing him, go for
it!

5. Pretend to need him. Men like to be the ones to protect you, so tell
him you get scared when he's not around or that you feel safe with him
there.

6. Cuddle him unexpectedly. Warning - do this when you two are completely
alone so that he won't feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. To keep him
happy, stop before he feels crowded. I suggest you hold him for about 5-6
minutes, then give him some space.

7. Buy him tickets to a football or basketball game that you know he
wants to see. To keep things romantic, go with him and cheer for his team!

8. Cook him a huge feast, let him stuff himself, then you load the dishes
in the dish washer while he rests. When you're done, sit near him and
stroke his arms while whispering sweet nothings in his ear.


These are great tips that you can use anytime. Good for special
occasions such as anniversaries or when you just want your partner to
feel extra special. Don't ever let your significant other forget how much
you care. Keep them feeling warm and fuzzy and they'll treat you so much
better!

Attention Man, Never Say This To Your Woman!

Mistake #1: "Your best friend is hot." She'll end up feeling threatened
that you're attracted to someone so close to her. It cause tension
anytime the three of you get together. If you think her friend, sister,
cousin, etc. is a knock-out - just keep it to yourself.

Mistake #2: "Maybe You should go on a diet." Women are insecure enough
about their bodies as it is. Seeing models and actresses on TV and in
magazines makes many women feel like they're not good enough. You should
never let her know that you notice her flaws, because she's probably
already obsessing over them.

Mistake #3: "I don't ever want to get married." Most women are interested
in long-term relationships. Plus, they love weddings. Telling her that
you NEVER want to get married will definitely cause conflict in your
relationship. Saying this to a woman may end your relationship or lead to
a psycho possessive girlfriend.

Mistake #4: "My ex used to do it different." Your new honey does NOT want
to be compared to your ex. Do not remind her that you ever had sexual &
romantic feelings for someone else. You might end up making her jealous.
The exception is when you are making a comparison extremely favorable to
your new girlfriend. However, you have to be careful - bringing up past
lovers too often for no reason will make her think that your ex is still
on your mind.

Mistake #5: "Maybe I should go without you." If you're going somewhere,
and your significant other wants to come, just let her! You know that she
might not enjoy herself, but denying her will make her suspicious.
Besides, isn't it fun spending quality time together?

Mistake #6: "That fart you made was killer!" If you're both really close
and comfortable with each other, this might be okay. However, when she
lets one slip by accident and starts blushing, DO NOT laugh at her. It's
an extremely embarrassing situation and she doesn't need you to notice
that she has "odors."

Mistake #7: "Why do you always want to talk?" I'll tell you the answer
now so that you never ask her this. The reason females always want to
talk, is because that's what they're good at doing. They've been doing it
for years and that's what they're used to. Your silence can mean a lot of
different things to a woman, some bad - so open up and let her know
what's really on your mind. If you don't want to talk, say that you don't
want to talk right now, but would be happy to in 1/2 hour. Anything else
will make you look like an insensitive jerk.


Keep your woman happy and don't utter any of these offensive remarks.
Remember that saying the wrong thing could mean that you end up sleeping
on the couch tonight!

Clues That Your Partner Is Having An Affair

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while
others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband
or cheating wife.


Signs of a Cheating Spouse:


1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a
vasectomy.


2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)


3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking
advice from you.


4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.


5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.


6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.


7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.


8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.


9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.


10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.


11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.


12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually
out of guilt.


13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible
to love more than one person at a time?"


14) He buys himself new underwear.


15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.


16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.


17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.


18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.


19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.


20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.


21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.


22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the
pay stub.


23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.


24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal
time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.


25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.


26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.


27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.


28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially
after you have gone to bed.


29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and
had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.


30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more
than previously.


31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You
see lipstick on your husband's shirt.


32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account
drops off.


33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items
that you did not give your spouse.


34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
and easily moved to anger.


35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your
voice.


36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.


37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.


38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the
home.


39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.


40) She has a "glow" about her.


41) Atypical erratic behavior.


42) He sneaks out of the house.


43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed.


44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.


45) He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone
number.


46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question
in the first place.

10 Things You Should Never Tell A Guy

Ladies, if you want to have a successful dating life, certain phrases
should never come out of your glossy lips. Here they are:

1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him when you see him. If he
wants to see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time for
anyone that doesn’t have time for you.

2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to this question: Because
he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why didn’t you want
to call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you
shouldn’t be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots
of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to
put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big mess!

3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tell you.
What you’re really asking is, “Where you with another female that you
like better than me?” Your insecurity is showing, my dear. If anything,
he should be wondering where you were.

4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in the hopes that he’ll say it
back, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be devastated and probably feel
foolish. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things up if he’s not
ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it
when he’s ready.

5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he’s not sleeping with her now, who
cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) with these
thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.

6. I’M PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the birth control choices available,
there is no excuse for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be. You
should be using something and he should use a condom, every time.

7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude. Guys want
someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s constantly worrying
about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it’s
going. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll know
it too.

8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, “Go to the principal’s
office”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so they’re
already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually
bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to him
when he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch tv!

9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled for and un-lady
like. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss it when you’re
calm. If he’s breaking up with you, reacting with anger may make you feel
better temporarily, but it’s best to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll
wonder why you’re so cool about it and that may make him re-think his
decision. Always be pleasant during a break up. Do you want to be known
as the girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up with her?? I didn’t
think so.

10. I DON’T TRUST YOU. What you’re actually saying is, “You need to step
up your game, because I can see you’re up to something.” If he is up to
something, he’ll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act
dumb-it’ll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your
suspicion

7 Reasons Why Diamonds Are Still A Girl's Best

Reason #1 diamonds are a girls best friend because they are so beautiful.
Fiery, romantic diamonds light up her finger. White diamonds look
beautiful with outfits in every color.


Reason #2 diamonds are forever. There are lots of beautiful things
around. Why diamonds? Roses are beautiful, but they fade. Dresses are
gorgeous, but after childbirth, or as she ages, that beautiful dress
would not look as beautiful on her anymore.


Reason #3 diamonds are precious. Sure, moissanite may be what a girl
might buy for herself, because of its lower price, but moissanite is man
made. Diamonds are rare, natural stones. The diamonds that girls love are
of the highest quality. The lower grade diamonds may be used in tools,
but women look at the quality of the diamond. A large, high quality
diamond would definitely impress.


Reason #4 diamonds are romantic. Especially when he is proposing to her
with a diamond worth two months of his salary. It means sacrifice for
love on his part. The fact that he loves her enough to save that sum to
buy that diamond for her is a very romantic gesture that she will
remember for years to come, each time she sees that diamond on her finger.


Reason #5 diamonds say that her man can provide for her very well. From
the days when men would go out and hunt for animals to feed the family,
to today, when most men go out there to bring in the money to support the
family, women love being cared for. Being provided for. In many cultures,
women look to marry a rich man. A man who can provide for them. If a guy
can afford to give her diamonds, he can easily provide for her daily
needs and for that of her children.


Reason #6 diamonds are practical. Like the song, diamond's are a girl's
best friend. A kiss will not pay the bills. A rose isn't going to pay for
her rental. A diamond, on the other hand, in times of emergency, can be a
life saver. A single diamond can be sold for enough money to pay for a
woman's bills when times get tough.


Reason #7 diamonds are a girl's insurance. Ok, so now, there are
insurance policies in paper, that promise to pay for her old age medical
bills etc, but diamonds are a lot more beautiful. She holds and sees
them. She wears them. Everyone admires them. They assure her that even
when she gets old, when she loses her looks, even if her guy leaves her
for a younger woman, the diamonds would still be with her. A collection
of diamond jewelry assures her that in her old age, or she is in dire
need for cash, a piece of diamond jewelry could be sold, or pawned for
much needed cash. Diamonds are a girl's insurance.

3 Tips You Must Know Before You Go Into Relationship

(1) Your lover does not owe you your happiness, peace or
joy.
Happiness is a state of mind we choose to have. All of your
happiness, and all of your suffering, are created by you and
they do not come from outside of you, or from others. Before
you go into any type of relationship, ask yourself these
questions: "Do I really, really, really know how to walk
away from disappointment and fear? Will I be able to find
the person that I am now even after I go into this
relationship and begin a new way of life?" In short, you
should not be dependent on your partner on your emotional
needs. You yourself are responsible for your own feelings
and creating positive experiences for both your partner and
you whenever you are together.

(2) Love your partner for who they are.
No one in this world is perfect. One day you will find your
partner doing certain things or saying certain things that
will hurt you, disappoint you or anger you. Before you go
into any type of relationship, you have to ask yourself:
"Will I be able to love my partner for who they are. If I am
unhappy or angry with something they have said or done, will
I be able to recognize my unhappiness or anger as against
their speech, actions and behavior, and not against their
persons?"

(3) Will I be able to love myself as much as I love my
partner?
If you cannot love yourself, how are you going to give love
to another? This is a mistake most people make when they go
into a relationship. They become over-obsessive with what
they can give to their partners and what they can do for
their partners. To ensure a fulfilling relationship, you
have to learn to take care of your own needs as well. A true
partner or lover is one who will make sure that you do not
become too dependent on them. You are responsible for your
own feelings and your own emotional needs too. You are a
beautiful being. So, take care of yourself, love yourself,
treat yourself to all the good things in life too, and do
the same to your partner. Very soon you will find true love
always coming your way without any effort on your part!

As always, if you are encountering problems in your
relationship, try to dissolve all of your problems in love.
And you'll be sure you are on your way to a peaceful and
fulfilling relationship!

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What Makes Online Dating So Popular?

The reason is pretty simple. It is very much the same reason that the

internet itself became so popular. The Internet opens up a whole new

world of communication and contact. And the reasons for this are given

below.

Speed

Try to picture what used to happen earlier in the days when people had to

depend on the good ol’ postal system. During those days, a person had to

wait for three or 5weeks for a letter to get across to a person who lived

in the same state itself. The second person in turn would take one or two

days to respond and this letter would take on or two days to get back to

the first person.

So in effect, a single correspondence would stretch over a month. But now

it’s a totally different story. The time taken for the first letter and

the response has been brought to an amazing 2 minutes! Waiting may make

the heart grow fonder but e-mail makes two people get close faster!

Privacy

The Internet provides for absolute privacy too. One can carry out

communication with another person in the absolute privacy of one’s

bedroom or bath room or wherever one chooses to be. There is no fear of

eavesdropping (ugh) or over hearing (shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat

facilities.

Options and Opportunities

The Internet provides for other options like voice chat or video

conferencing and stops short only of the physical touch. But then who

would want to start a relationship by touching right away? You can see a

person, talk to a person, and listen to the person’s voice, can you think

of a better way to start a date?

Economy

All this and more is possible thanks to the internet and the best part is

that all this comes to you for peanuts. All you need is a P.C (who

doesn’t have one?) and an Internet Connection (how can anybody live

without one) and you are all set. The only thing more you could ask for

is a step by step guide to find your dream date…well here it is!

Does Online Dating Work?

Dating Online is currently the Internets biggest craze, and its here to

stay! But does it actually work?

I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with

matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.

When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn’t

trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money

out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of

Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I

was determined to see it through.

A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom

membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a

few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could

trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took

so long to find these trust-worthy sites.

So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most

important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that

you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean

spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts

the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other

adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with

another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with

10 adults who only share a few similarities.

Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to

myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major

part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for

over a year (I’m planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can

propose to her!)

Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it’s taken time to

get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the

right Dating website, that’s suits you and your needs then you will also

have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.

I thought how great it would be if their was a website that had a list of

all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so

that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and

communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for

the best companies. So that’s what I did. I designed a website that was

split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles

and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.

It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every

Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also

help on the best way of writing your personal profile.

Can a Computer Find Love For You

I logged on to a dating site the other day and was greeted by a large,

flashing message. It promised that if I took the time to answer a series

of questions that they would find a "perfect match" for me. Imagine that?

All the work and worry of being single - gone! We truly have evolved! Not

only can computer programs manage the entire traffic system of a city and

make chess grandmasters cry, but now they can lead my perfect match right

to my doorstep. I always wanted a Stepford wife, I hope it comes

assembled.

The recent trend in Internet Dating has been the use of a "computer

personality test" of some sort. Websites claim that these tests, usually

developed by a "top psychologist", have the ability to understand you and

your needs through a series of questions. Confused? Lost in love?

Problems communicating? Don't worry, the Online Dating Hal 5000 can

figure you out! In fact, when you're done, this computer program will

know your needs and desires better than you do.

People have impulsive behavior that simply can’t be measured when they’re

sitting, relaxed and introspective, taking one of these tests. Often our

answers reflect our perfect (or hopeful) idea of ourselves. Even if we

are trying our best to be honest, our impulsive behavior in real-life

situations can be far different than we’d expect.

Another wildcard is attraction. We can meet someone who’s empirically

good-looking, has a similar background, is kind and successful – and yet

we’re not attracted. Often we can’t explain why we like another person.

It may be how they make us laugh, a crooked smile – even how they smell!

Sometimes little things that are immeasurable on their own can

collectively make us attracted.

Human beings and our emotions and desires are far too complex, and a

computer program can’t solve the riddles of our romantic lives. As Jung

put it, “the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two

chemical substances; if there is a reaction both are transformed”. It

sounds good, but even Jung was hedging his bet when it comes to love.

What will cause two individuals to react to each other? Even the

developers of the study of personality would not presume that a series of

questions could predict romance.

If you rely solely on matchmaking services, you are missing the entire

beauty of online dating. The beauty is opportunity. Online dating offers

you an almost limitless opportunity to meet and date new people. It gives

you the time and space to find what best suits you. Going to a quality

dating site that isn’t trying to sell you fantasy of finding your match

for you will mean you will have a pool of millions of singles to meet.

Treat matchmaking options as just another fun way to explore. It can

serve as an ice breaker to start a conversation, but don’t expect them to

be the answer to finding your perfect match. Keep all options open and

explore possibilities. As a unique individual, only can you know what

works for you. You need to develop skills to communicate and meet people.

Developing both online and offline dating skills is the best way to find

the right relationship.

Next time you’re brushing your teeth, take a look in the mirror. See that

amazing person? That’s your matchmaker with a mouthful of toothpaste.

Take charge of your life and get into action! Enjoy dating and enjoy the

process of discovery. Your experiences, both good and not-so-good, are

essential to finding the right person for you.

10 Tips to Woo Your Lady

1. BE UNPREDICTABLE
Women love wondering what’s next. But most guys are painfully predictable. Don’t ASK her where she wants to go for dinner. Instead, TELL her see you at 8. If she’s curious, say “It’s a surprise.” Take her to an unusual place. Even if it’s a hole-in-the-wall dhaba, she’ll love it more than a fancy eatery, simply because of the anticipation. The only predictable thing about you should be unpredictability.

2. GET PHYSICAL, EARLY
The longer you delay touching her, the weirder it gets later to kiss her. Initiate touching early. Hug her when you meet; at least shake hands. Do some thumb wrestling while having coffee. If you’re going to a different venue, say “Let’s go!” and hold her hand. Then, remark “Hope you’re not getting ideas, just because we are holding hands”; roll your eyes and say “Women!”

3. LEARN TO WALK AWAY
This one is routine sight in our malls. While the women are browsing the clothing section, boyfriends often hang around like puppy dogs, just waiting for them to get done. Not good for attraction! Walk away, browse the men’s section, chat with people, do anything that does not involve waiting for her. Let HER come and find you.

4. LEAD, DON’T FOLLOW
Many guys, while interacting with a woman, give her all their power. While planning an evening out, he’ll ask her what she wants to do. If she suggests a movie, he’ll give her a list of movies to choose from and so on. Not good. Women like men who take decisions and take the lead. Your tone should be something like this: “Hey I’m going to see XYZ movie, at 8 tonight. Wanna tag along?”

5. COMPLIMENT HER
Don’t compliment her about her eyes, beauty etc in the first meeting itself. Instead, compliment her on something not so obvious. “I like the way you’re so well co-ordinated” is much better than “You’re so beautiful, are you a model?” Or you could be playful about it and say, “You have nice eyes, but you know what, mine are nicer.”

6. DON’T EASE THE TENSION
Once you’ve made your subtle yet cheeky moves, she may say things like “I like you” or “you’re funny”. Many guys drop the ball here and say “I like you too”. Well, that diffuses all the tension. Instead, up the tension further. Ask her if she’s flattering you just so you will go home with her. Be cocky. A good rule-of-thumb is to say all the stuff that women typically tell men.

7 TEASE HER
Teasing a woman the right way demonstrates confidence and humour. For instance, if she is walking behind you as you enter a restaurant, turn around, look at her sternly and say “Stop following and staring at me!” Then mock about about why women are always in a hurry to tear off your clothes before even knowing you. Interpret anything she does as if she is hitting on you.

8. LEARN HOW TO BE A GREAT KISSER
Women can tell from the way a man kisses how he will be in bed. Here’s a tip: Don’t be like most guys who kiss while they’re scheming to get to the main destination, sex. For a good kisser, the kiss is the destination itself; he kisses as if he wants to enjoy every moment of it. Women can tell the difference.

9. DO THE ‘PUSH-PULL’
Open the door for her, but complain that she walks slower than your granny. Feed her at a restaurant but roll your eyes and mutter about how she’s a baby. While walking on the street, have her walk on the inside to protect her from the traffic; but tease her about how she’s delicate. If you can tease her and still treat her like a lady, chances are before long, she will be all over you.

10. HAVE A LIFE!
Women don’t like men who follow them like Mary’s little lamb. Women, especially quality women, want a man who is on HIS path, following HIS passions. Have a busy life with interesting activities that bring a smile to YOUR face and it will automatically attract people (including women) to you. Don’t chase women, attract them.

Dating Men Online

A lot has changed since the days of matchmaking and escorted evenings

out. Dating in the 21st century has taken many turns, among these the

emerging popularity of meeting partners online.

Online dating has many benefits. The shy dater can open up and get to

know a person without having to deal with first-date jitters that often

come from fear of the unknown. By the time he or she meets the potential

paramour, they have already established a comfort level that allows the

date to flow much more smoothly.

At the other end of the spectrum, social butterflies love online dating

because of the number of fish in the sea. With so many people to choose

from, booking several dates in a short amount of time is easy. Online

dating allows you to be discreet, and it also enables you to be choosy.

You choose partners based on common interests gleaned from dating

profiles. This is an attractive alternative to approaching a potential

mate in a bar going on looks alone.

As the online dating community has grown, so too have the number of

vendors willing to help you promote yourself. Professional writers and

photographers offer services to assist you with your dating profile. They

hawk services to help you attract more hits to your online profile, which

obviously helps lead to more dating options.

Dating websites vary. Some require a fee to enjoy certain benefits, such

as the ability to post a picture or short video. Other dating sites offer

free private e-mail accounts and access to thousands of profiles without

paying a dime. When engaging in online dating, however, it is important

to exercise caution.

Remember that anyone with Internet access has access to these sites. It

is virtually impossible for dating sites to weed out the bad seeds; the

online dater must take care in setting up dates with strangers. When

first meeting face-to-face, choose a public place. Don't divulge too much

information until you have a good idea of the person's character. Be

careful not to tell too much too soon. With a responsible attitude and an

open mind, online dating can be fun, safe, and exciting.